Your scent is your identity. Your hair is your signature.
How do you like to wear your hair?
I have asked myself that question many times over the years.
As a Black woman, I have worn my hair in different ways.
I have worn it down on my shoulders. I have used relaxers. I have straightened it. I have worn cornrows with my natural hair and, at different times, with extensions.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying different hairstyles.
Sometimes you simply want to look different.
Sometimes you want to feel feminine.
Sometimes you want to walk into a room and feel like yourself again.
For a while, I thought caring for my hair meant finding the right salon, the right style, or the right product.
Then I began to see it differently.
I began to enjoy caring for my own hair.
Every few weeks, I wash my hair and give it some attention. Sometimes I make a simple treatment at home and use it as part of my hair care routine.
It is nothing complicated.
It is simply something I enjoy doing for myself.
For me, it feels like having my own little spa at home.
And I don’t stop with my hair.
I take care of my nails too.
I have a small nail file, a cutter, and a cuticle tool. I soak my hands and nails in a little bowl of water with some gentle skincare soap, clean them, shape them, and take my time.
It has become a little routine of mine.
The third weekend of the month is my hair and nails weekend.
It is not about luxury.
It is about attention.
It is about slowing down long enough to care for the person who has been carrying everything else.
My relationship with my hair has also taught me that sometimes we simply have to listen to ourselves.
There was a time when I wore extensions, but eventually my scalp became uncomfortable and irritated. I realized that what looked beautiful on the outside was not necessarily what felt best for me underneath.
So I began listening to my scalp.
Sometimes we have to do that with ourselves too.
Listen.
Pay attention.
Ask what feels good.
Ask what works for you.
And give yourself permission to change.
I have also tried very short hair.
And honestly, I love seeing women with beautiful short hair. There is something wonderfully free about it.
One thing I especially loved was the feeling of water reaching my scalp.
When I wore my hair very short, I enjoyed that feeling. It was refreshing and, for me, almost therapeutic.
I have even worn an afro before.
But today, considering the professional environment I work in, I choose a hairstyle that fits the setting I am in.
And that is okay too.
Our hair does not have to remain the same throughout our lives.
We are allowed to change.
We are allowed to experiment.
We are allowed to discover what works for us in different seasons.
Some women love their natural curls.
Some love straight hair.
Some love braids.
Some love extensions.
Some love short hair.
Some love their hair long.
There is room for all of us.
For me, hair is not about proving which style is better.
It is about knowing yourself.
Your hair can change.
Your style can change.
Your season can change.
But the woman underneath it all remains.
And perhaps that is why I have come to see hair as more than hair.
It is part of how we introduce ourselves to the world.
It is part of our culture.
It is part of our femininity.
It is sometimes part of our memories.
And sometimes, it is simply our signature.
So take care of it.
Learn it.
Listen to it.
Find what works for you.
Take care of your hands.
Take care of your nails.
Take a little time to care for yourself without feeling guilty about it.
You don’t need an expensive appointment every time.
Sometimes self care is simply washing your own hair, sitting quietly, caring for your nails, and giving yourself an hour to breathe.
And don’t be afraid to change your style.
After all, we are allowed to evolve.
I may wear my hair differently tomorrow than I do today.
And that is perfectly fine.
Because my hair may be my signature,
but I am still the author of the story.
What’s your favorite hair style ladies
I wear the most basic for work purposes but weekends and holidays and off work days I go free style Afro..
